WHY STAYING PRESENT IS SO IMPORTANT
At one point in my life, I felt completely lost. I thought I was on one path, and then one day - I wasn’t. That experience was completely strange (bizarre really), overwhelming, and stressful. Trying to figure out where your life is going, when it’s not really going anywhere, can cause massive amounts of anxiety, overthinking, desperation, and depression even.
Maybe you’re experiencing the same right now...
I want to offer you some relief, but I’m also not going to sugar coat my journey and act like I’m now living in some fairytale. Because for me, that just wouldn’t be true. My journey to true joy has been and continues to take tons of work and conscious effort every single day.
We definitely live in stressful times and there is no denying that. At times, our world can be straight up - chaotic!
But what I can say is that if you do find the right tools and support, life can flow with much greater ease.
One tool I’ve learned throughout my journey thus far, is the simple act of staying calm and present. This concept alone has been a complete eye-opener for me.
At times in the past, I have been known to be a complete Type A worry wart.
For instance, during my first pregnancy, I had terrible issues with my blood pressure, going in and out of the hospital and being placed on bed rest for months at a time (it affected my health big time). I remember the day I was to give birth, a nurse on staff at the hospital asking me if I considered myself “Type A”. My phone had shut down and I went into a panic that I couldn’t get to my calendar and to-do list.
I mean - really?! Who worries about their to-do list when they’re about to give birth!?!?!
I was listing off (ranting really) to my husband about all of the things that still had to be done before the baby came home. A month early, this was a surprise for all of us.
The nurse stopped me (thankfully) and said, “have you heard of mindfulness?” I had no idea what she meant, but had a good feeling she was trying to tell me to slooowww down and stay in that moment.
Thank God she did, because being present in that moment was the most important thing I could have done for myself, for my husband (who was also completely stressed), and for the health of our baby.
A few years later, practicing mindfulness has helped my life move with much greater ease and control (imagine that). It's given me the ability to be focused, clear, and patient when I need it most, and has helped me enjoy life's little moments with the people who matter most - my family.
If you're new to the concept of mindfulness, I personally like to define it as a means of staying in the present - not worrying about what has happened (I can’t really take that back), not worrying about what hasn’t happened (I can’t really predict the future), and consciously choosing at any moment how I want to experience my life.
It's a simple, yet profound concept.
When we truly slow down and stay present, there is much more room to make better decisions for ourselves and the people we care about in our lives. It also helps us with our stress levels (and blood pressure).
Want to bring your blood pressure down? Breath, stay present, and stop worrying about things that either have or haven’t happened yet (of course this isn’t a substitute for medical advice - so I’m going to preface that right now - I’m being facetious).
The 5x5 rule is a fun way of looking at this topic...It goes: If it’s not going to matter in five years, don’t spend more than five minutes being upset about it.
Yes! I love that.
So going into this week, ask yourself how you can be more mindful in your own life...In what ways are you worrying too much about the past or the future and in what ways can you stay more present in this moment? How will that help you with your stress, your health, and your overall wellbeing? How would it bring you more happiness? How would it bring you more clarity to where you are headed?
Wishing you peace, love, and joy.