3 WAYS TO START MOVING FORWARD NOW
This week I’ve been thinking a lot about how so many women are struggling with finding direction in their lives and feeling as if “they aren’t where they’re supposed to be”.
Just a few weeks ago, I met a woman who had a very similar experience to the one I had in my late 20’s. It was so similar, that our stories were almost identical. Strange? Absolutely! Spiritual synchronicity, maybe, but in all earthly reality - more and more women are having these experiences during this time in history. It’s a definite sign of the times.
The life crisis - quarter, mid, spiritual, existential - whatever you are calling it and wherever you are in it, it’s safe to say - it’s becoming more and more of a thing.
Ever wonder why?
Well, it goes deep...much deeper than we have time for in this post (and I don’t want to get all Jim Carrey on you either). What I do want to do though, is offer you some practical support around taking the next steps forward during such a difficult time.
And even though it may be natural to look at this experience in our lives as negative, I like to look for the silver lining and give my difficulties a positive spin (and I’ll tell you why).
You see, I also went through a difficult time in my 20's. But now, more than a handful of years out from that time, I like to believe that this time in my life put me on the path to where I am today.
It helped me step into my more adult role...my greater purpose.
Had I not gone through a time in my life where I literally felt like the world was crumbling down all around me, I would have never picked up the pieces and done the work to build something from that.
This time in my life helped me to be a much stronger, more loving, more giving version of myself. It helped me return back to a more natural and peaceful version of myself. The woman I am today.
If you’re experiencing a crisis in your life as well, try not to be so hard on yourself. I know - easier said than done! We want to figure this out, get our life on track, be more at peace, and have that all now! The important thing for me was to keep moving forward...one baby step at a time. Eventually, you too will move through this and come out stronger on the other side. It may take some time, and will definitely take some work, but you will get through this...
In the meantime, here are a few things that you can do to start moving forward now:
1. Experiment. By experiment, I mean follow your curiosities and give them a try. See what works. Or doesn't work. What's the worst that could happen? If you find something isn't working, doesn't fit, or just doesn't sit well with you, stop doing it and move on. This way of thinking will help you move towards the person you truly are! So...What have you always wanted to do? What has caught your attention? Try to choose one thing you’d like to try that in the past was either not an option (for whatever reason) or you just didn’t think was possible at the time. And don’t worry about getting anything “right” either. Just start moving forward. It will either work out or it won’t. And that’s ok.
For me, when I first went through this in my life, I took up equestrian lessons. It was quite literally the first thing I did. I had always loved animals as a child. I didn’t have anything going on that point, so it was natural and easy for me to go to the equestrian center and sign up for lessons as a hobby. In fact, it was extremely therapeutic and helped me to feel more empowered by connecting with such beautiful and majestic beings. Did I become a professional rider? No. I just started moving forward out of curiosity. What it did do though, was to help me to break free from old habits by stepping out of my comfort zone. It also helped me connect with others in a way that I normally wouldn’t and helped me to focus on something that was growth oriented, energy building, and spiritually fulfilling. Riding horses literally touched my soul - it brought me closer to God (which was what I really needed at that time in my life).
The best thing you can do when you are feeling in a funk? Get yourself moving forward in any positive way...
2. Meditate. If you don’t know how to meditate or you have never taken to it, I want to challenge you to give it another try. I practice Meditation with a mantra and also use Kundalini Yoga meditations for specific reasons. Meditation helps you to become more clear, less stressed, and more attuned to your natural self. You can start with 3 minutes a day and then work your way up to 20, but try to do it for 40 days in a row to create a new habit. I promise by the end of your first 40 days, you will feel very very different...you may even have a better understanding of where you are headed! After a while, you will be able to drop into a meditative state much faster and you may even start to receive intuitive messages as you learn to get quieter and listen to your inner guidance system.
When I first started becoming more in-tune with myself, one of the first things that came to me was that I was “meant to be a healer”. Can you believe that? I couldn’t. I was freaked out, but at the same time (somehow) relieved by the truth of this message. I had intuitively known this as a child, and then a teenager, but never followed through with it (I guess I didn't really believe or know it was possible for me at that time). Instead - I chose to take the long route, but am much more wise because of it!
Now if you want more information around these concepts, start by buying a book on Amazon and reading about it first, or sign up for a course online. For books, I highly recommend The 8 Human Talents by Gurmukh (Kundalini Yoga meditations) or any book on Transcendental Meditation (meditation with a mantra) that explains how to do it. For online courses, I highly recommend ZivaMind by Emily Fletcher (meditation with a mantra). She guides you step by step with amazing video content that you can do straight from your laptop within a week!
3. Stay Positive. In the school of thought that I come from, it’s said that the more positive you are, the higher energy you will vibrate at, and the greater things you’ll then start attracting into your life...hence, the more happy you’ll be! As so many others say - your entire world starts within! That’s why being positive is so important.
Now, if you can’t even begin to fathom how you can “be more positive” during this time, it’s ok. I get that. Have you heard the expression, “fake it till you make it”? Well it works, and surprisingly - it’s based in biology (Check out Social Psychologist Amy Cuddy’s video here for a more in-depth view on the topic).
Our mind is a powerful force, so when we consciously choose to feel more love, compassion, and peace within our lives, that’s the exact reality we begin to create for ourselves. Positivity is key!
Overall, your experience is real and I want you to know that it’s ok not to not know where you are headed just yet. The best piece of advice I can offer is that life is a journey, not a destination. So take it one day at a time and do the best that you can. You will get through this in time.
And please know that you that you are never alone in this process, so don’t be afraid to reach out for support. It’s so important to have a positive support system in place filled with people who care about you (friends, family, your coach, or your therapist) during these difficult times in your life.
Wishing you peace, love, and joy.
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